The Mom Pledge
I am proud to be a mom. I will conduct myself with integrity in all my online activities. I can lead by example.
I pledge to treat my fellow moms with respect. I will acknowledge that there is no one, "right" way to be a good Mom. Each woman makes the choices best for her family.
I believe a healthy dialogue on important issues is a good thing. I will welcome differing opinions when offered in a respectful, non-judgmental manner. And will treat those who do so in kind.
I stand up against cyber bullying. My online space reflects who I am and what I believe in. I will not tolerate comments that are rude, condescending or disrespectful.
I refuse to give those who attack a platform. I will remove their remarks with no mention or response. I can take control.
I want to see moms work together to build one another up, not tear each other down. Words can be used as weapons. I will not engage in that behavior.
I affirm that we are a community. As a member, I will strive to foster goodwill among moms. Together, we can make a difference.
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"There seems to be no end to the topics that can generate controversy. A recent poll of Mom bloggers revealed 76% had experienced or witnessed cyber bullying between moms on online."
You know, I think this is a great idea, a great pledge to take, a great word to spread.
But it shouldn't even be an issue!
Cyber bullying of moms?
Really, people?
Shame on anyone who picks on a mother. Extra shame on a mom who picks on a fellow mom.
In my 11 years as a mom I have learned that each and every one of us is doing the best we can with what we've got. We ALL love our kids. We ALL want the best for them.
There is no argument about that.
Anything else we could argue about, is all personal choice and opinion. And you can't tell people how to feel, what to value, what you think they should be doing. Even if someone asks your advice, still the only thing you can offer is your personal opinion. The other person doesn't have to agree.
Is that annoying? I know, right? But....
We should be kind, caring and compassionate enough to have healthy debates that don't denegrate one another.
I know it's frustrating when you don't agree with something someone's doing. I get frustrated all the bloody time (hence Fantasy Eff Off Fridays)! Venting is healthy. Attacking is not. We are ultimately only responsible for our own actions, our own stuff.
And we are responsible for what we put out there.
"Life is like a boomerang; what you give, you get back."
If we want support, we need to give it. If we want understanding, we need to give it.
Moms really need these things.
Women in general need these things.
Why do you think there are so many women/mom bloggers?
We should support and try to understand one another EVERY DAY.
No jealousy, spite, conceit or negativity.
I hope, here in my personal Internet space, that I am putting out positive energy more than I'm not. I hope that my posts make people smile. When I do write about sad or difficult things, my hope is that I will be given support and understanding. I also hope I am succeeding in giving these things to others.
The last thing any of us needs to do is tear another woman down. We do enough of that to ourselves.
"There is a special place in hell for women who do not help other women."
~Madeleine K. Albright
We say we want strong female relationships, yet we so often do things to undermine them. Our busy lives, obligations, assumptions and insecurities all get in the way. I'm guilty of it. Perhaps you are too. We can always try harder. Just be real, honest, kind and loving, and hopefully the rest will take care of itself.
So here's to you, my fellow moms, fellow women!