June 29, 2015

Some Things Just Are What They Are

While perusing my Facebook news feed recently I saw a fan page status asking followers what common phrases get under their skin.

Several people answered, "It is what it is." One person clarified, "Ugh, just change it!"

I kept thinking about this for hours. (Funny how something you see in passing will do that to you, hu?)

You see, that phrase is one if my life mantras (I have it printed on a mug, and would buy a wall hanging of it if I found one I liked), so I can't understand why anyone would be put off by it.

And the person who exclaimed "just change it!" bothered me because that is the exact opposite of what the phrase is about.

For me it speaks to the first line of a well-known thing called the Serenity Prayer.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change."
Because, dear person who says "just change it!", there are some things in life you CANNOT change. Those things are what "it is what it is" is all about.

The first person I heard utter "it is what it is" was my friend who was dying of metastatic breast cancer eight years ago.

Because she couldn't change it. She, and everyone around her, had to accept it.

I hold onto that phrase to this day for similar reasons.

C'mon, say it with me....because of my husband's chronic illnesses. And heck, also because of my own stupid eyes. And, oh I don't know, because lots of things happen in our lives that you can't CONTROL!

Sigh. OK. Moving on.

Mark's diabetes is what it is.

His kidney failure is what it is.

His heart disease is what it is.

The loss of feeling in his feet and hands....all together now....is what it is.

My poor vision is what it is (I'm lucky I can still see!).

My "resting bitch face" due to the down-turned shape of my lips is what it is. I suppose I could change that by walking around with a smile plastered on my face all the damn time, but, um, no.

Acceptance of things we cannot change.



Not needlessly beating your head up against the wall.

It must be exhausting going through life not getting the sentiment behind "it is what it is".

I would have lost my mind a long time ago otherwise.

June 22, 2015

Daily Diabetic Complications

No one is supposed to actually come out and say this, but Diabetes is an insidious disease that kills you slowly over time.


Even if you take the best care of yourself you possibly can, some complication of Diabetes will most likely lead to your demise.

I don't even want to list all the problems that can crop up because it is too long and depressing. Quite commonly, Diabetes is the leading cause of blindness and kidney disease, two terrible and permanent afflictions.

I married a man with Type 1 Diabetes and over the years have been watching it take its toll on him. It actually started its rampage in Mark before I met him. He was diagnosed at age 9 and by 25 he was legally blind, was losing kidney function and neuropathy had begun in this feet. Once his kidneys failed he was blessed to receive a kidney and pancreas transplant which commenced a six year reprieve from Diabetes (and dialysis).

June 16, 2015

VLOG: 10 Things in My Junk Drawer

Oh my gosh, you guys, I did a video of what's in my junk drawer for Tuesday Ten this week!

This was no easy task, though. You see, I have had what seems like the entire world in my house today. By the time 4:30 rolled around I had to tell my husband to zip it and kick my son out the door so I could just get 'er done!

There's nothing fancy here. I used my phone's camera. No shots of my face because I couldn't use the camera switchy option thingy while videoing.

But you get to hear my voice!

June 13, 2015

Bullshit vs. Gratitude

I felt a whole lot of gratitude this week.

It's not that anything particularly wonderful happened.

I think what it it is, is that, at least for me, the circumstances of my life have taught me to easily notice all the things I could/should be thankful for.

To the point, honestly, where I am often dumbfounded by those who don't see. I am that person who, when listening to someone complain about something, can almost always find a way to spin the complaint into something to be grateful for.

Now before you go calling me Suzy Sunshine, it's not that I always arrive at my gratefuls without ever first feeling anger, bitterness or the urge to coat my feelings in sarcasm.

I am both easily frustrated....and easily thankful.

June 9, 2015

When a Blogger Has Too Much on Her Mind

....And cannot focus on any one topic enough to flesh it out and make any sort of actual point....she might choose to employ the exercise known as a "brain dump".

Because just like when your house is very messy and you look around at where to start and just end up overwhelmed so you freeze and do nothing?

Well, that's how my brain feels right now. There's a big ol' mess up in there!

Sometimes getting it out is necessary, if only to help you discover, and focus on, what matters most.

June 4, 2015

Four Life-Altering Choices

I've been feeling a bit of bloggy nostalgia since my five year anniversary passed at the end of April.

While many of my early posts kind of suck, there are some that I am very proud of, but that most of you probably never read. Either because I was ignorant of how to pimp myself, or because you hadn't discovered me yet (which I suppose kind of go together).

So I'm thinking while my family is in this place of flux due to the end of the school year, coupled with my husband being away from home in a rehab facility, I would dig up some gems, edit and republish.

I first wrote this post back on May 6, 2011.
It's about those decisions we make in life that change our lives in some way.

May 29, 2015

I Am Poem

Hey you guys! This? This right here that you're reading? It's my 1000th post!!

What in the world should I write for my 1000th post??


A couple or three years ago many bloggers I read were writing "I Am" poems. I didn't at that time, but saved the template for it in my favorites, hoping I would one day set to writing one of my own.

This appears to be as good a time as any.

May 26, 2015

A Summer Bucket List of Little Things

I've noticed that many people seem to be into this notion of creating a summer bucket list. I get it. It's about seizing the moment, carpe diem and all that.

We often think there's plenty of time to do all the fun summer things, but then those three months go screaming by.

I don't think I have a "bucket" list so much as a "to-do" list. My family is just not the kind that gets to do a whole lot of BIG things.