October 22, 2014

Grieving for the Man He Used to Be

My husband is not the same man he used to be. Every health setback he suffers shoves this fact in my face.

It's been on my mind a lot lately.

After a good friend died seven year ago I participated in a grief counseling group with mutual friends of hers. I learned a lot from it.

One of the biggest things I learned, that I didn't already know, is that loss comes in many forms. Death isn't the only way we experience loss.

Mark is still alive, but we are most definitely grieving the loss of the healthier man he used to be.

And all the changes.

October 20, 2014

5 Little Ways I Take Time for Myself

I have been asked about how I could possibly find time for myself with all I have on my plate as a mother, wife and caregiver.

I pointed this out in my first Ask Jen post, but I'll just say again, I'm not aiming for any sort of perfect. I'm not going to cry in my Cheerios if something doesn't get done.

In fact, I must admit I completely forgot about my son's school picture day earlier this month. The school sent home the order form and I fully intended to place an order online beforehand and send AJ to school looking sharp. But because I spaced it (the order form got lost under other papers and I didn't write it on the calendar), he wore some graphic tee and probably shorts that day.

That's a bummer, but it's not the end of the world. I got some nice pictures of him last year, and I can try again next year.

I may not be campaigning for the Perfection of Womanhood Award, but we all know it's a pretty universal female trait to think of ourselves last. We are natural nurturers.

October 17, 2014

These Are a Few of My Favorite Things

As soon as I saw the topic for this month's Old School Blogging, this song started playing in my head:

And it has been stuck in there for DAYS. Hopefully getting this written and done will purge it from my brain!

Is it in your head now? Mwahaha.

October 15, 2014

An Interview with a 14 Year Old

Last year I started a new tradition of having my kids answer the same 20 questions each year in order to watch how they change. I was inspired by Katie at Your Girls and Boys.

My daughter Camryn is 14 years old now and a freshman in high school.

October 13, 2014

Ask Jen: Is It Easier to Raise a Son or a Daughter?

Reader Question

Asked by Tiffany (aka Kisma) of Sounds Like Life to Me: You are a mother to two, one boy and one girl, who is the easier child thus far to raise?

My Answer

Well this is a loaded question! But since being as honest as I possibly can is how I roll, I will answer accordingly....

Let's break this down, shall we?

October 10, 2014

The Canadians Made Me Do It

I think a gratitude list is called for in honor of Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend.

I wish American Thanksgiving was in October too, because it's just too close to Christmas.

No one's gonna listen to me though, are they?

October 9, 2014

Resources for People with Vision Loss in Washington State

I realize this is a very specific topic that many of my readers may not have any need for. That's OK, you can skip it if you want. It's something I've been thinking about sharing since I attended the Sight Connection Low Vision Expo last May. It just so happens that October is Blindness Awareness Month, and today specifically is World Sight Day, so I thought it fitting to post about it now.

I was fortunate enough to be able to attend this year's Insight: A Low Vision Expo. Mark and I got lots of useful and interesting information that I want to pass on to those who might need it.

My (low) vision has been stable for the last 20 years. I adapted to my limitations a long time ago. I attended a living skills school for the newly blind and visually impaired when it first happened. This was back in California, so everything I've ever known about available resources for my particular disability were specific to that state. When I moved to Washington 11 year ago, I didn't know anything about what might be offered here, and frankly, didn't really need to know for a long time.

October 6, 2014

10 Things a Blogger Does when Her internet is Down

If you follow me on social media you may have seen my whining about my internet being broken one day last week.


Also, I'm a blogger. The web is kind of important to me, right?

Just be happy you didn't have to hear as much of my angst as my husband did.

So what does someone who NEEDS the internet on a daily basis do when she is forced to go without?