May 21, 2012

How to be a Good Husband

As of yesterday, Mark and I have been together for 18 years. In July, we'll celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary.

So I think I know a thing or two about husbands. Or at least, what I like in a husband.

Mark is really a good guy. I mean, there are always a few things I could complain about like his socks, but he doesn't do anything out of maliciousness or spite; he never intends to be a jerk. He knows me better than anyone, and loves me anyway. He's also a good dad.

For the most part, I think being a good husband (or wife) is about wanting your spouse to be happy. If you both want the other to be happy, chances are you both will be.

Also? Communication. I have come to the conclusion that communication is the most important thing in a marriage. You have to talk to each other. Which is not something men particularly enjoy. In fact, it can be like pulling teeth. But, it simply has to be done.

10 Things Husbands Should Do (based on what Mark actually does)

1. Change light bulbs and hang pictures.

2. Exceed the speed limit on the shoulder of the freeway when his wife is in labor.

3. Be capable of doing domestic things. Moms of boys: teach your sons to cook and clean!

4. Take care of all things related to automobiles.

5. Be in charge of the garage. Seriously men, don't complain about the garage getting messy or unorganized. We women do not care! I view the garage as a utility room. I'm sorry.

6. Make sure his wife has her favorite coffee creamer and wine on hand at all times.

7. Rearrange plans he had with a friend so his wife can go meet her bloggy friend.

8. Ask how time spent apart was, and actually want to hear the answer.

9. Take how ever many family portraits his wife wants with a smile.

10. Make her laugh!

Yep, Mark does all of the above. I know, I got a good one. He's good at making up for all the crap he makes me deal with! Just kidding. Maybe.



26 comments:

  1. Great list! I really like the asking about your time apart. it really shows that they are interested in what you are doing.

    Here's my post:

    http://collettaskitchensink.blogspot.com/2012/05/honey-do-list-52112.html

    Colletta

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  2. Ha! Love #9 :). Finally got permission to schedule a family portrait!!

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  3. :)

    Nice to smile instead of cry while reading your blog!

    Love you both!

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  4. Excellent list! Especially the one about the wine and coffee creamer! hehe

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  5. I agree with all of these! And spider killer. They must be able to kill (or rescue - sometimes I'm nice and release bugs to the wild if they are not evil killers who will eat me in my sleep)spiders! Also... holy new blog batman!!! Love the look!

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  6. I agree with ALL of these...especially #4...take care of all things automobiles. That includes cleainng them too right?

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  7. I love number 3...but I think I'm already doing a horrible job at it with my sons. And I'd love to say he's good with number 4 but we both are pretty much completely clueless. It does sound like you got a good one.

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    1. I'm sure you still have time to teach your sons cooking and cleaning basics!

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  8. #3 is so right on Jen, and in our house too, my hubs in charge of all things hanging. That might just be why the walls in all our bedrooms still are empty nearly 3 yrs. later!

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    1. Well, we are in charge of nagging, right?

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  9. Yes having wine and coffee creamer on hand or super important!

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  10. Great list but the best is that you ended with make her laugh. Here's to lots of laughs in your future.(and coffee creamer and wine)

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  11. Yes to #6....it really is about doing those little things that are special to your love. mine still brings me my coffee in bed in the morning when he is home. silly man though...he still thinks it will make me get out of the bed. LOL

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    1. Haha! Why would you get up if the coffee is brought to you? Silly man.

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  12. Totally agree about having favorite coffee creamer and wine (or beer in my case) on hand! Love it!

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  13. I tried about a million times yesterday posting a comment and it just did not get accepted! I loved your list and knowing you are happy makes me happy. Also you have the neatest little sarcasm about you that made me fall in love with your blog from day one. Must be the English in you :)

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    1. I'm so sorry my blog was giving you a hard time. How dare it! I love that you remember I have English in me.

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  14. I like it.

    I'm on marriage number two so I'm making sure I do everything and more to ensure I dont give away half my crap again.

    I think its important to TALK all the time about everything so resentment and distrust doesnt build.

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    1. That means you learned from mistakes made in your first marriage and that's a GOOD thing!

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  15. Hey congratulations on having a wonderful husband! Lucky for me, I think I 've got one of the good ones too. He cooks, cleans, and changes diapers (the baby's, not mine). ;)

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  16. Excellent suggestions!! Congrats on being together for so long. I admire that so much. It is so nice to see two people so deeply in love and strong.

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